Gems

Relationships?

I decided to do a fill in today. The fact that my blog looks empty and hasn’t had any update since is why I chose to share this with y’all. Recently, there has been lots of gossips on social media concerning relationships between celebrities and all (**not mentioning names**). But then I figured that with access to hundreds of thousands of smart, amazing people through my website, I could go one step further. Why not consult my readers? Why not ask them for their best relationship/marriage advice? Why not synthesize all of their wisdom and experience into something straightforward and applicable to any relationship, no matter who you are? Great right?

Firstly, what does the word ‘RELATIONSHIP‘ mean to you?

For some people it might mean intimacy with their spouse, partner or whatsoever. But truth be told, that’s not all what’s it’s about. Being in a relationship is an option which we do choose, to ensure our “Happily ever after life.”

With time only the relationship is left behind, with little or no happiness. This happens because we tend to forget what a relationship really means. This is what being in a relationship really means;

• RESPECT

These people, through sheer quantity of experience, have learned that communication– no matter how open, transparent, and disciplined, will break down at some point. Conflicts are pretty much unavoidable and feelings will always be hurt. (truth be said).

And the only thing that can save you and your partner, that can cushion you both to the hard falter, is an unerring respect for one another. It’s crucial that you hold each other in high esteem, believe in one another often more than you each believe in yourselves. Without that bedrock of respect, you will begin to doubt each other’s intentions. You will judge your partner’s choices, and encroach on their independence. You will feel the need to hide things from one another for fear of criticism. And this is when the cracks in the edifice begin to appear.

Do you respect your partners decisions or are you just a selfish duck?

• BE OPEN TO EACH OTHER

I’m not scared of relationships myself, I’m only waiting for the right time because I strongly believe I’m going to see a better version of myself.

For you to have a healthy and stable relationship, there must be trust. If something bothers you in the relationship, you must be willing to say it out loud. Doing so builds trust, and trust builds intimacy. It may hurt, but you still need to do it because no one else can fix your relationship for you. Just as causing pain to your muscles allows them to grow back stronger, introducing some pain into your relationship through vulnerability makes the relationship stronger.

• FORGIVE

Ayyy. This is one major battle most couples do face. The key here is not to change the other person as the desire to change your partner is inherently disrespectful (to both them and yourself)– but rather, it’s to simply abide by the difference, love them despite it, and when things get a little rough around the edges, to forgive them for it.

Everyone says that compromise is key, but that’s not how most people see it. It’s more about seeking understanding. Compromise is bullshit, because it leaves both sides unsatisfied, losing little pieces of themselves in an effort to get along.

There are pretty signals to watch out for to know if a relationship is going to work or not. Watch out for red flags 🚩too!

Enjoyed today’s post? Want a collaboration. Oops! I’m not available at the moment but please don’t hesitate to leave a message. Reach me through any, I’m still quite active there.

Send an email to📧 josiahemamokeh@gmail.com

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